The Art of Patient Waiting

It’s close. So close!

It’s what you’ve been waiting for!

The nursery is ready, baby showers attended, tiny clothes washed and folded, diapers bought…

And each day that goes by brings the arrival of your little one just a bit closer!

 

Maybe you hope baby will come before your due date.

Maybe you’re glad baby is still tucked inside so you have time to get those last few things done.

Maybe you wish this little one would just get here already so you can stop using the bathroom every 3 minutes!

 

Then your due date comes… and passes… with no signs of labor.

You may wonder “When will this baby come? Is there anything I can do to help baby come?” Or “should I just wait?”

When you are feeling the pregnancy in every part of your body, not sleeping through the night, or just wanting this little one in your arms, the waiting can seem endless.

 

So what’s a person to do?

You may prefer to keep working until you feel the first twinge of labor.

Don’t feel up to going to the office? Working in the comfort of your own home (and in pjs and slippers) can be a way to take care of yourself in those last weeks, while also fulfilling your responsibilities.

If your presence is required at the office, have something to prop your feet on, let others run those papers down the hall or up the stairs, and do what you can to take it easy on yourself.

 

Want to stop work ahead of time? It’s a great way to have the space to rest, regroup, or focus on the last minute projects that need done.

If you find you have too much time on your hands, meeting a friend for lunch, taking walks, or checking out that new store before baby gets here can be ways to fill the time.

 

You may have heard of multiple ways to kick-start labor from friends or an internet search. Suggestions range to everything from spicy food to sex. Some methods work better than others, and some are safer than others. It is best to check with your care provider to see what they recommend.

 

Have you thought of having a babymoon? Of getting away from your normal routine and hibernating with just you and your partner? Whether you go somewhere new or have a mini staycation, it’s a great way to relax, connect, and bask in those last moments of it just being the two of you.

 

Are you getting the constant question of “when is baby coming?” Or “Haven’t you had that baby yet?”

When you receive such unwanted attention, and are tempted to tell them what to do with their question, put on your best smile and say “My baby knows exactly when it needs to arrive.”  (You can tell your girlfriend later what you really wanted to say.)

 

Patient waiting is one of the hardest things you’ll do in the last weeks of pregnancy. Do what you can to stay relaxed and peaceful. Having a good cry because you are just done with being pregnant, binge watching your favorite show, or calling your doula for a pep talk can help release the tension you may be feeling.

Taking care of YOU is the most important thing in those last weeks.

The waiting is not easy, but take a deep breath, you’ll make it!

 

Written by: Lois Perks


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